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Getting rid of your ex’s stuff can be difficult for you because it cements the end of your relationship. After a breakup, it is important that you get rid of all things that remind you of your ex. These little reminders can keep you trapped in the clutches of heartbreak. You want to do this as soon and as quickly as you possibly can after your break up. The faster you can remove your ex from your external surroundings, the better.
What To Give Back
Ideally, you should give back to your ex every single belonging that you have in your possession. However, that might not be possible, so here are the important things to give back.
Give back all of their sentimental items. Yes, you might feel the urge to throw them in a huge backyard bonfire. However, would you like it if they took your favorite childhood teddy bear and backed over it with a tractor trailer? No, you wouldn’t! So be nice and send them back all of the items that mean the most to them.
This includes collectible items, childhood toys, baby pictures and pictures of family members, and items they might need for work or school.
You can make arrangements with your ex to trade stuff if you feel that you are able to handle the contact. If you can’t bear seeing them right now, send them a quick email or text explaining that you will be shipping their items and for them to do the same. Be as mature about this as you possibly can.
What To Trash
Throw out the toiletries that they left at your place when they used to spend the night. Trash the toothbrush, razor, hair goop and all the stuff that they can easily replace with a trip to Wal-Mart or the drugstore. This stuff just reminds you that you will now be spending your nights alone.
Just don’t go overboard. Do throw away your dishes because she used to cook for you and you ate a lot of romantic dinners on them. Throw away their stuff and not your own, unless you don’t mind buying brand new housewares.
What To Keep
You can keep the photos you took together and love letters that they wrote you for now. You may also want to keep any gifts they gave you for birthday and special occasions. Just don’t keep them out in the open.
You can gently place them in a keepsake box if you wish and put it all the way in the recesses of your closet. Keep things that generate good feelings about your ex and your relationship. You know the reminders of the good times you had with your ex.
One day, when you are completely over your ex, you may decide that you want to get rid of these things. But for now, knowing that you can cherish these keepsakes when you absolutely need to may comfort you.
Final Thoughts
Getting rid of your ex’s belongings doesn’t have to be a big “to-do.” Once you are finished purging your ex’s stuff, you can begin to let go of your ex emotionally. Take it one step at a time. Start by packing up what you want to give back and go from there. You can do it!
After you get rid of your ex’s stuff, make sure that you get back the most valuable thing from them, your POWER! Check out our free ebook The Power Shift and learn how you can get back your personal power from your ex and start to move on after your break up.
~Here’s to your healing!
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My girlfriend and I have been together for six years and it has been like a rollercoaster. I love her very much and she admits that she is aware of this.
She gets very jealousy and often keeps score of everything that I have done in the past. In arguments she often brings them up.
This past 4th MON of July 2011 she went to her sisters house to go swimming, and once she was done spending time with her , she wanted to watch movies with me. I explained to her that I was going to play basketball with some friends and she decided to get mad after I said she could not come.
The following TUE,WED, she gets upset and ignores my calls and gets mean when we start texting each other.
The long and short is that I want to know when she puts my pic in drawer what does it mean ?
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