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Don’t Stalk Your Ex:Use The No Contact Rule
The NO CONTACT Rule is hard to keep up especially right after a break up. You are used to talking to your ex several times a day, and then suddenly, you are expected to cut off all contact. That’s just pure insanity! Never fear. There are a lot of things that you can do instead of stalking your ex through modern technology.
How To Get Started With The No Contact Rule Now!
Here is a simple list of five things that you can do right now or whenever you feel the urge to call your ex and beg them to come back:
- Unlink Your Profiles And Delete All Contact Information
Literally, this can take all of 10 minutes to do but can be one of the most helpful things in kicking off the No Contact rule. Nothing says out of sight, out of mind like changing your relationship status on Facebook to single.
- Call A Friend Or Family Member
Play catch up with a friend or family member the next time you are tempted to dial your ex up. Find out what’s going on in their lives for once. This will give you a chance to think about someone other than your ex, and your friend will think you are thoughtful and return the favor when you need it the most.
- Workout Or Take A Walk Without Your Cell Phone
Distraction! Distraction! Distraction! You are going to need all the distractions you can find when you are implementing the No Contact Rule in your life. Working out can be a darn good one because most times you will need full use of your hands and that means they can’t be clutched around your cell phone. Next time you feel like grabbing your phone and texting your ex, go for a walk and leave your cell phone behind.
- Set Up A Special Silent Ringtone Or Block Your Ex’s Number From Coming In
You can change your ringtone for your ex if you don’t dare to completely delete them from your cell phone. Make their ringtone silent so that way when they call you, you will miss the call.
- Relax
Turn off your phone and unplug your computer. Take the time to treat yourself with kindness and respect. Unwind as much as you possibly can. Use this time to focus on yourself and not on your ex. Take a bubble bath, read a book, or take a nap. Do something that you enjoy that doesn’t involve using any technology whatsoever.
Final Thoughts
The No Contact Rule Can Help You Heal Your Broken Heart
Most people struggle implementing the No CONTACT Rule after a break up because they don’t want to let go of their exes. Some people would rather chop off an arm than go a day without communicating with their ex. You must realize that if you truly want to heal your broken heart, you have to sever all ties with your ex right now. It may be painful at first, but in the long run, it will put you on the right path to moving on with your life.
Instead of cyberstalking your ex, you should use the extra time you now have working on regaining your personal power. You can get assistance with this with our free ebook The Power Shift. This guide will provide a distraction when you are at your weakest and help you get your power back and implement the No Contact Rule for a solid foundation in healing your broken heart.
~Here’s to your healing!
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hi.. i am shobi. i ve been married for 9 months. love marriage. we fought b4 4 months but v live together in same house.But we don talk t each other. he jus comes home @ night. doesnt eat @ home at all. He jus comes home to sleep @ night daily. i love him madly. i want him to love me again and miss me. he doesnt speak. but wen ever he wants me in night. he takes me in bed everyday. then sleep off. next day morning v don look @ each other. wha a life. i want him to love me again . how do i do that.please help. i am jus 25. want to liva a happy life.pleae help please help plz help
i recently started talking to an old boyfriend i dated years ago. we started chatting on facebook and i suggested we hangout and catch up so he gave me his number right away and texted me as soon as i gave him my number he even gave me his new number after he got rid of the old number. so we continued to text and talk a bit on the phone and we hung out one day and ended up hooking up, we talked a bit the next day and made plans to go out again over the weekend. when we met each other he gave me the biggest,longest, and tightest hug with both arms and a big smile. when we were getting ready to leave he gave me another long tight hug and two soft long kisses goodbye . now i havent heard from him and i dont know why he’s not talking to me,we kind of agreed to start seeing more of each other and i’ve tried texting and leaving a voice mail and still nothing.
Hi my ex fiance’ and I spoke about him visiting a relative on his own in Bury as this woman
has a bad back injury and he was wanting caring for her
so i said no problem i understand you want to look after her and just ring us let me know when your returning he said ok gave me a massive hug and i said say bye to the cats
he left 4th Jan at 2pm
i kept in cntact through the ladys phone and her facebook account with him he was ok taking the phone calls and spoke ok with me.
then one morning at around 3:35 he popped up on her facebook and said could i ring him
i did he said i dont know how to say this over phone but she is getting looked after properly and ive got to stay here and make sure they stop doing it i said ok but what does that mean for us and he said well we both dont like long distance and ive never any money to come and see you and we cant have a relationship over the phone so im sorry i think its easier in the long run to call it a day so i said your throwing in the towel on a 2+ year relationship you wont even try and make it work it work and ive got no choice have i he said no why you trying hang on to something that clearly not going work
i asked do you love me and he said i dont know
he said we can still be friends though and i said i cant be friends with someone i was planning on marrying next year and trying to have a family with
i put the phone down on him rang him back five minutes later and apoligised
and please could we make it work and he just said no
i broke down in tears after that it hurts so much.
ive since spoke to him and when i finished the conversation i said i love you and he said it back i said ont say it if you dont mean it he said i do mean it
when recently wednesday 15th i took his belongings to him and ask for my keys back
he gave me a cuddle and wouldnt let me go he held my hand and said when Tom the cat gives me a hug think its really from him i stopped myself from crying infront of him and left.
i rang him that night and asked him was the reason i wasnt invited in because you were sat on the couch with a girl cuddled up and she was waiting for you he said no of course not we had only just woke up all of us
i believed him and said right ok sorry ring you it was just bugging me i wont you again he said no i still want to hear from you i said i cant it hurts to much hearing you say you still love but still call it a day
ive now started the 30 day no contact rule im on day three and all i can say is i think in the time period he is going move on whilst im refusing offers from possible new romances because my heart belongs to him
what should i do
I’ve been in this relationship 1o yrs but have been arguing for the past 5 yrs. We broken up twice and said a lot of horrible bad things to each other over the 5 yrs. I am tired of getting back together as it is like a revolving circle, same sh!! just different day. We live in the same city and atm even if I wanted to I would move town but due to work commitments I just cant. Every time I break it off he continues to txt me telling me he loves me and he is sorry..and I am well and truly over that bllsht but I am too vulnerable and take him back. I just want him to leave me alone and go find someone else. The more he contacts me and I go back to him the harder it gets. What can I do? Vulnerable, confused and fed up!!!
Your advice really helps me